Sitting down with your partner and deciding to go to couples therapy is a big step! It can be a difficult conversation to initiate and for some can come with shame due to stigma. But jumping into something together and asking for support is a huge act of love and care - for yourself and each other.

I aim to provide a compassionate and holding space where the honest, messy, and beautiful stuff can all be expressed and - very importantly- heard. This helps us uncover underlying, perhaps unconscious, thoughts, beliefs, and feelings within so healing can even begin to occur.

It can be important to reflect on and share individual histories as it relates to relationships and attachment in addition to the relationship’s history. Oftentimes, we carry the models and messages of love and relationships within our family of origin without examining whether it is ours to carry at all. By exploring past formative relationships within the family we often discover experiences that turned into beliefs; beliefs that turned into behaviors or reactions; reactions that contribute to a relational dynamic that no longer works for the relationship. By clarifying this for yourself, and in the presence of your partner, empathy, compassion, and deeper understanding can flourish.

Whether there has been a breach of trust, difficulty with communication, a major life transition, or an underlying dynamic and patterns of behaviors that no longer feel good, together we will unpack what’s troubling you, learn to hear and hold space for each other, build on strengths within the relationship, and in doing so work toward greater intimacy and connection.